It's the time of year when Bridal shows abound -- the holidays brought loads of marriage proposals -- Valentine's Day is coming with the promise of more.
So, Brides-to-be are researching what new trends are leading the pack for weddings this year. They search for hours online, visiting large and small blogs and websites about wedding trends, they buy all the bridal magazines, they call friends and recent brides to get their advice, they talk with industry professionals and all the while, try to wrap their mind around what everyone else is planning to do, new ideas from vendors or what has been forecast-ed as the newest, best trends...
The thing is -- it doesn't matter.
Let me say it again -- It Doesn't Matter!
First off, there are contradictions all over the place as to what the popular trends are for any given year. Actually, that's pretty logical. Think about it:
- What is available in the big cities is not always readily available in less populated areas
- Wedding Budgets vary widely across the country and around the world
- Family and/or cultural traditions vary
- It is human nature to steer an undecided person toward something that is easily obtainable, popular or "all the rage". Friends, family and even some industry professionals are guilty of this. Instead, they should be listening to your wants, dreams and desires and helping make them come true.
The bottom line is everyone has an opinion about up and coming wedding trends. It's an opinion. It's not a simple case of right or wrong. They only opinions that really matter are those of the bride and groom.
Just because some wedding magazine, your best friend or wedding professional says that pink with purple polka dots is the "in thing" and all the vendors have it in dresses, linens, favors, cakes, flowers etc... doesn't mean you should paint your entire ceremony and reception in pink with purple polka dots.
UNLESS and that's a big unless... that's what you truly want. If it's your heart's desire then do it!
I guess the point I am trying to make don't lost your individuality or personality during the wedding planning. Remember your own wants, desires and dreams. Don't make your wedding and reception a cookie cutter event for the sake of being considered "in style". Don't let current trends dictate your decisions.
Be who you are and make your decisions because of who you are. Choose elements for your wedding and reception that you truly love and/or that represent who you and your fiance are.
You know what you like. Don't make your decision based on what other people are saying is popular. If you want pink with purple polka dots -- go for it! If you abhor it, don't be talked into it.
If you like it, do it -- if you don't, then do it your way.
Now, I'm not talking Bridezilla, here. There is no excuse for bad manners or not using common courtesy. Just believe in yourself and your decisions. It's your wedding day and your guest will be happy to be a part of your dream.
Say "I gotta be me!" and plan your wedding with a smile.